8 Rules Happy People Live By
8 Rules Happy People Live By
Happiness is a life quest almost everybody has taken on, found it or has given up thinking it a myth.
For those who have found happiness and work in keeping it constant in their life know the eight most important rules which allow them to live a life filled with positivity, optimism and happiness.
The following eight rules are absolutely easy and blatantly obvious. Make a conscious focus in following them and you might find your own positive slice of happiness.
- Accept who you are
Feel comfortable with who you are, we are born imperfect, and therefore all flawed. Accept yourself entirely, both your physical, and personality weaknesses and strengths. Accepting yourself for who you are and loving yourself entirely is a key to inner happiness. Learning to love oneself is the stepping-stone to loving others.
- Never compare
Those people who are truly happy have learned to never compare their worth, possession and accomplishments to others. You will never truly be happy if you keep looking outside and wish you have what you don’t have. If you keep wishing for something you don’t have your energy is wasted in what you don’t have instead of enjoying what you already have. Creating feelings of jealousy, of underachievement, dissatisfaction and unhappiness.
A healthy amount of comparison that motivates you to place steps in motion for improvement and further your success are pivotal but doing so with jealousy within is not. A critical and positive inward look at where you are now and where you would like to be completely detached from feelings of jealousy will lead to more fruitful, successful accomplishments that generate happiness.
Live a life wherein you appreciate what you have, accept and acknowledge that everyone is different, and stop comparing yourself to others and you will experience joy and happiness on a daily basis.
- Frame of Mind
See the positive in every situation, easy said than done, maybe but it is a frame of mind you actively choose to implement. Inevitably, there will be moments of misfortune that are completely out of your control. However, almost always, you can choose to feel sad, annoyed, angry, stressed about any given situation or turn it around and look at the positive. In every situation in life there is a good dosage of good and bad in everything, the Yin and Yang theory at play.
Learn from mistakes or a bad experience and avoid those same mistakes in the future. Every setback and bad situation will inherently make you stronger. Real growth doesn’t happen in comfort, it’s through pain, suffering and discomfort that real life lessons are learned and real character fuse. When you look at the lows in your life, take it as life throwing you chance to learn, to become a better and stronger person. This thinking will make you feel more positive, more equipped to deal and get through these moments in life with more ease.
- Relinquish Control
Generally people like to exercise control because it gives them a sense of security. However, letting go of control is the only means to truly being free. Control chains you and everyone around you as it creates this false sense of having control. Life, however, teaches us that things don’t always go as planned.
Trying to control life and people around will create panic within once you feel like you lost control when you really never had it to start with. The stress and worry of losing control will eat away your happiness.
Life will run its course and people will choose their own destiny, whether you are part of that destiny will depend how much freedom you give them to choose. Trying to control them will not only drive them away but also create panic and chaos in your life and less happiness.
Planning is often confused with control, planning ahead for better results is intelligent, however every good plan has a contingency plan.
- Stop resentment
Most of the time you hold onto anger because you believe it would make the person you’re mad at upset and realise their wrong. What really happens is that the anger within you will eat you away.
Regardless of what someone does to you, hurt, cheat, or abuse you, when you hold the hearted you hold the hurt. You are the one suffering, hurting inside clouding all chance of happiness; best thing is to let go of this hurt as quickly as you can.
At first it will be hard to do but with practice it’ll become easier. Remember the fire of hatred, of resentment, of anguish only you feel it and not the person who caused them. So let it go.
- Live in the present
The simplest way to explain this is, would be to ask you to take time and watch kids live life. Kids wake up each day with a clean slate and live that day to the fullest with zest and happiness. Because they focus on what is happening in front of them and pay attention to the person they are with. When you live in the moment and do your best, you feel happy, completely happy. You forget about the future, or the past.
Much like the kids live in the moment and do your best to accomplish what you are supposed to do and complete. Make today the best it can be and tomorrow will follow suit.
- Stop worrying and take action
Worrying is futile; it leads to unwanted stress. Stress is the silent killer as it leads to poor health. Instead of worrying about the future, your health or your kids’ lives – take action. Do today what will make your future better. If you are worried about money take steps today to provide for a better financial future. Worried about your health, eat healthier and start exercising. Worried about the future of your kids, help them make good decisions that will pave a bright future for them.
- Keep an open mind
If you don’t have an open mind, stand firmly on your beliefs and ideas and oppose others who think otherwise, you will feel extremely agitated and uncomfortable when people with different beliefs and ideas are presented in front of you. A set mind has no room for new experiences and life never ceases to change. A rigid mind stops being part of the constant learning that is life. True happiness, is in the knowledge that everyday we look forward to learning something new that is going to reshape and refine what we already know and even possibly learn something new altogether.
By having an open mind, you would not mind hearing about the different beliefs other hold. In fact, you would embrace the difference, want to understand it better, and become adaptable and flexible in your approach. You wouldn’t have to fight with yourself in accepting others. You’d feel at ease with differences and feel positive about change.
