The best way to recover from a breakup
The best way to recover from a breakup.
Breakups leave you emotionally bruised and there is a strong desire to get over the breakup as quickly as possible.It appears that this deep hole of sadness is sucking away your time and energy you need to function properly in your life. This time of ‘mourning’ most times perceived as a complete waste of time, is important to your healing.
Science found that people who linger and reflect over their breakup are more likely to heal their heart than those who don’t face their feelings. So spending some time feeling sorry for yourself and crying, it is good for you. An University of Arizona study showed that participants who frequently answered questions about their breakup showed greater recovery than those who were only prodded briefly at the beginning and end of the experiment.
“When relationships end, we often suffer a big change in our fundamental sense of self,” says study author, David Sbarra, Ph.D.
“But the more you start to regularly think about who you really are and what you want in life – apart from that relationship – the more you regain the clarity you need to cope well.” Sbarra says.
Do you need to go over the details of your breakup?
Yes! Find a friend you confide and talk it over with them. Discuss when you realised the relationship was over, what you remember about the break up and how the breakup has affected you. It might sound lame, but this honest evaluation will help you analyse the real reasons why your relationship didn’t work. Why possibly you weren’t the right people for each other and learn from this breakup so you will not repeat the same mistakes in your next relationship.
If you are not quite ready to open up to someone, run it through your own head or even write down your emotions and reasons for the breakup. Read it over and it’s chapter over.
How long does it take to get over a break up?
It takes about 2-3 months to recover from a breakup, says Sbarra.You are ready to move on when you can describe yourself and your future goals without mentioning your ex.
Once you’ve shut that door, make the most of your newfound free time by reconnecting with your family or friends—or even challenge yourself by joining a new club or group. Constructing a strong inner circle will help you gain the confidence you need to meet someone new. You will start at a point where you are strong, confident and sure of what you are looking for in a partner and relationship.
