How To Offer Compassion In Times Of Trouble

How To Offer Compassion In Times Of Trouble

Along with respect, attention and care, support is essential in partnerships and interpersonal relationships. The support prevents a person from losing self-confidence and doing stupid things. Eating themselves up from the inside and engaging in excessive self-criticism. It helps to accept oneself, recover and gain strength. It helps to become more self-confident. Increases self-esteem. It helps to feel needed and useful. Support makes a person stronger. It gives the opportunity to more effectively cope with difficult situations.

When do you need to offer support and compassion?

There are many situations when a person needs your compassion and support. And if a person close to you is in one of these situations, make sure to be there for him. 

Difficult situation

When a person found himself in a difficult life situation. It can be anything. The loss of a loved one. Divorce. A major quarrel or conflict. Loss of money, dismissal and loss of a job. A terrible diagnosis or a progressive illness. An age crisis, accusation or bullying.

Significant event

When some important event for a person is ahead. An important business meeting. A first date. A speech in front of an audience. A debut or an exam.

Threat

When a person is threatened: the threat of loss of life, loss of health, money, work, career, clients.

Problem of choice

When a person has to make an important choice and is very hesitant and does not know what decision to make. Choosing a partner or whether to stay in a relationship. Staying in this city or move to a new one. Which university to enter? To quit his job and look for a new one? 

Mistakes

When a person made a mistake or screwed up. When he did something wrong, stumbled. In this kind of situation, he needs help, compassion and support so that he can realise those mistakes, admit and correct them.

Big goals, plans, tasks

When a purposeful person sets himself big goals, plans, tasks, and he may not have enough resources for this: emotional, material, personal, psychological, etc. He may also lack confidence in himself and in his choice. It may be morally or psychologically difficult for him. But at the same time, he takes a proactive position and support in any form may be important for him.

However, you need to feel the situation when your support or compassion is appropriate and needed, or when you will only distract a person from his actions or see that he is doing an excellent job on his own, without outside help.

How can you help and support a person?

1. Hug

Hugging a person and just being there, sometimes even without words, is the best support. Hugs give a person warmth and fill him with calmness. It gives him the feeling that he is not alone. That there is a close person with him who supports him and shares with him the complexity of the current situation. Worries about him, on whom he can rely and trust him.

2. Praise

Praise when a person has coped well with his task. When he may not be completely sure of it or thinks that something did not work out the way he wanted. In this case, it is important to find some positive moments in what he did. Evaluate his efforts and intentions. Praise is evidence of the value of a person’s actions and intentions.

3. Show empathy 

Empathy is a very important form of support and compassion when a person has some kind of loss, grief, or trouble. Compassion can relieve a person’s pain and suffering and give him hope for the future. Here it is important to be able to share the feelings of the other. Let the person speak out their pain and express their emotions, to relieve the soul.

4. Give competent advice

It is important to give advice only when a person asks for it. Competent and timely advice can help a person make the right decisions.

5. Practical help

You might ask, “What can I do for you? How can I help you?”. If someone is facing a loss of a loved one, you can help organise the funeral. You can find a good funeral service or inform everybody about the place and time of the funeral. It is possible that a person will need physical help, or to complete a task for him, bring or get something, etc. 

6. Financial help

Help with money if a person has grief. Invest in a person if he does not have enough of his own resources. Invest in the development of business, projects and ideas.

Conclusion

Remember, support and compassion don’t relieve a person of responsibility. It doesn’t prevent him from learning a lesson.  It only helps to pass these lessons more competently in order to become stronger and more self-confident.