Top Ways to Maintain a Healthier Lesbian Relationship

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Top Ways to Maintain a Healthier Lesbian Relationship

Lesbian relationships have unique obstacles for both partners to feel loved. Here are 6 ways to maintain a healthier lesbian relationship.

Falling in love is the easy part, maintaining a healthy lesbian relationship over a long time can be difficult. Long term relationships can suffer once that honeymoon period is over, but they don’t have to as long as you are committed to keeping your relationship alive and moving forward. From the monotony of everyday life to feelings of jealousy, all lesbian relationships go through their ups and downs. However, with a little work and a focus on respect and developing couple-compatibility your relationship will flourish.

Here are 6 tips to help you and your partner maintain a healthy lesbian relationship.

Keep a Positive Mindset

A positive mindset is not always easy. In fact, the longer we grow into a relationship the more likely that we will add stressors to our lives. From friendships to money problems, stress exists everywhere. Sometimes this can lurch into our love life by taking over our mind. The key is to find a positive mindset. Keeping a positive outlook helps to boost mental and physical health, eliminates negative self-talk, and boosts confidence. There are several ways to maintain a positive mindset, such as:

  • Daily affirmations
  • Finding humour in difficult situations
  • Turn failures into lessons
  • Mindfulness (see below)
  • Surrounding yourself with positive people

Play Together

One of the most critical ways to maintain a healthy relationship is learning how to do things together. Monotony can really kill a relationship, so finding an activity you both enjoy can help you bond and keep your relationship growing. Activities such as travel, picking up a new sport, volunteering, or joining a local LGBT community are fun, maintain a healthy relationship with LGBTQ+ community,  enlighten your spirit, and direct attention to your future together.

Practice Mindfulness

Strong lesbian relationships realize the importance of maintaining balance within yourself to maintain the balance within your relationship. Mindfulness is the process of bringing yourself to the present moment. Activities commonly associated with mindfulness are yoga and meditation.

The reason why mindfulness is so important is that it helps bring your focus to the now. The premise is that the past has already occurred, and you can do nothing about it. The future has not yet happened and is highly unpredictable. But you can address the present.

 Keep Sexy Time Alive Throughout The Day

Sexting is a great way to remind your partner of what awaits her when she gets home and keep the excitement in your relationship alive. If you don’t frequently sext it’s important to learn about do’s and don’ts of sexting. Here are a couple of pointers:

  • Be consensual: If your partner isn’t in a position to sext, then it’s better to wait until she is. After all, while you are not physically together, sexting is still discreet.
  • Be genuine: While sexting provides a fantasy, it is important to be genuine otherwise your partner may lose interest. So, tell her why she is sexy and what she does that turns you on.
  • Be specific: We don’t need to go into the details, but instead of telling your partner that you want to rip off her clothes, describe how you slowly slide your finger along her shoulder to undrape her robe while nibbling on her neck.
  • Be respectful: You know the words your partner likes and dislikes. So, while you are sexting, make sure you don’t break the mood by going somewhere your partner will find distasteful.

Focus on Your Health

In general, maintaining a healthy lifestyle benefits you, and your relationship. Feeling attractive and sexy is important for all of us. This is how we develop confidence. When you focus on your physical and mental well being you are better equipped to handle stressful situations, regulate emotions, and be comfortable comforting your partner when she is having an off day. Creating a routine around health will focus on three pillars:

  • Quality sleep: At least seven hours day for adults to allow your mind to regulate the body’s hormones and chemical balance, help you recover from inflammation, and organize thoughts, emotions, and memories.
  • Healthy Diet: A healthy diet will provide the nutrition you need to maintain energy throughout the day, help you sleep better, and provide your body with the nutrition it needs to keep your systems running properly.
  • Exercise: Whether you are gardening, taking daily walks, or hitting the gym twice a day, any exercise counts. Not only will exercise keep you strong, but it is also a proven way to maintain a positive outlook on life.

 Look at Life Through Your Partner’s Eyes

One of the biggest factors that prevent a lesbian relationship from maintaining strength is a misunderstanding. Perception matters. Unfortunately, most people consider their perception as the only truth, when, in fact, there are two (or more) literal sides to every story. So, if you say something and your partner storms off, it doesn’t just mean she is being moody. Try to understand what you said and how it affected your partner. Better yet, put yourself on the receiving end to better understand how you would have felt.

Maintaining a healthy lesbian relationship isn’t always easy. Relationships require work, commitment and most of all respect for each other. While these tips can work in any relationship, they are especially important for the dynamics involved in a lesbian relationship.

From building a closer bond and finding time to improve yourself to keeping your love life alive with flirtatious sexting, committing to moving your relationship forward is as important as your love for your partner. So, while having a lesbian relationship is nice, maintaining a healthy lesbian relationship will improve you and your partner’s life for the long run.


Caitlyn Lowe is a lifestyle writer since 2011. Graduated from the University of Florida in Psychology Major.

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