7 Awesome Tips to Start to Love Yourself and Your Life

7 Awesome Tips to Start to Love Yourself and Your Life

I am often asked by friends how do you actually practise self-love? Well, in this article I have compiled a list of the things you can actually do to start practising self-love, and what I have found myself saying over and over. So let’s get into it! 7 awesome tips to love yourself and your life.

Challenge negative beliefs 

A lot of times our thoughts become belief cycles that then dictate our behaviour. Here’s an example of how this might work. Let’s say you score badly on your very first University exam which then causes you to believe that you’re not good at your chosen course, which then causes you to avoid University, and that causes you to fail your degree. 

Look deep down into why you might have had that belief. I mean everyone has times where they fail an exam or don’t do well in coursework. It’s true that challenging old beliefs about yourself can be difficult, however, it’s very helpful in understanding who you really are.

Practice mindfulness 

One of the most loving things you can do for yourself is appreciate the present moment. If you don’t know what mindfulness is, it’s directing your attention to focus. Stop thinking about when you’re going to do next today, or stop thinking about what you just did or said ten minutes ago. Instead, spend the current moment on keeping a focus on what you are currently doing.

Stop complaining 

The goal here is to stop complaining and fix the problem. As an example, I could complain about needing to go to work every day, or something. Whatever you complain, you are screaming I’m a person who doesn’t better myself – I just live however life happens and I put up with it. 

Think about it, if your friend was constantly complaining to you every day, you wouldn’t put up with their complaining, so don’t put up with your own complaining either.

Celebrate your wins 

Even if they’re small wins, you should learn to celebrate them. When your friend does something exciting, you make a point to congratulate them, so do the same for yourself. 

Go treat yourself and buy a gift, or purchase some books, go to the cinema, treat yourself to a nice dinner; whatever it is that makes you feel good. 

Be a little selfish for a bit, by rewarding yourself for your behaviour. It is totally okay to do this every now and then. 

Protect yourself 

Let’s say that you love someone a lot like you are head over heels about them. Now let’s say that you also know this person has some bad qualities that they aren’t willing to work out. In fact, whenever you call them out on it, they get very upset and irritated. 

This means that they are not mature enough to look at their behaviours objectively and they don’t actually want to work on themselves. Don’t date this person no matter how bad you want to, because you will be protecting yourself from the damage that they would be doing if they were with you.

Eat healthy and exercise 

Taking care of your body is taking care of yourself. Taking care of yourself is literally loving yourself – it’s as simple as that. Just going to the gym for 15 minutes of cardio and skipping sugary vending machine foods is a great start. 

I wasn’t really going to rant about this, however, imagine if you fed your child what you eat every day. They would not be healthy; vending machine garbage, carb-loaded drinks, greasy foods and never letting them get out of the playpen to run around and have fun. 

Learn to love yourself like you would love your toddler; feed them healthy food so that they can grow and give them plenty of exercise. Please do the same for yourself.

Live life for yourself

If you live your life predicated on what others wanted, you are doing yourself a huge disservice. Imagine if your friend was a painter, however, their parents wanted them to be a business consultant. You saw your friend walk into their office, and doing business reviews and projects every day, even though you knew they felt it was soul-destroying. 

If you loved them, you would tell them that they don’t have to live a life for their parents and that they could be a painter and do what they loved. Do you agree? Well, go ahead and treat yourself the same way! 

If you want to do something, even if you’re scared, go ahead and do it. This doesn’t mean to not care for others or to not heed others advice, however, don’t do something just because it’s not what you feel is expected of you. 

Summary

So, again these seven tips on learning to love yourself and love life, are;

• Challenge negative beliefs 
• Practice mindfulness
• Stop complaining
• Celebrate your wins 
• Protect yourself
• Eat healthy and exercise 
• Live life for yourself

All the best in adopting all of these as habits, and getting to enjoy life and your own company.